“Problems cannot be solved at the same level of thinking that created them”
-Albert Einstein
This is my next mission, to help people understand that change is possible and can be joyful. The good news is that science says we CAN change! We are not hard wired. A leopard CAN change its spots. Well, maybe a leopard can’t, but we can!
Essentially, neuroplasticity describes the brains ability to set up new connections, everything in life is about connections, at a brain and heart level.
THE BRAIN LEVEL AND THE POWER OF FOCUS AND ATTENTION
I somehow knew this when I was 23 and practicing as a new, enthusiastic, and excited physical therapist. I was working in the neurological ward and I used to explain to my stroke patients that the first time they managed to control or regain an isolated movement, a tiny scratch would be etched on their brain. Each time they repeated this movement or action the scratch would become deeper and deeper until it was so deep that the movement became automatic and at that point, they did not have to think and work incredibly hard to make their toe move. Initially they had to focus very hard and pay extreme attention to every aspect of the movement. It had to be a very conscious brain effort.
This is in essence what neuroplasticity says, VERY simplistically! If we focus our brains attention on what it is we want to change and repeat it frequently, we can make new connections and lay down new pathways. The more we do it, the easier it becomes, until finally we don’t even have to think about doing it, it is automatic.
As an aside, if we continually focus on the negative aspects of anything, those connections and neural pathways are reinforced, until they become your automatic response, you don’t even know you are officially a pessimist! Pay attention to what you focus on in life, the good or the bad.
THE MORE YOU DO IT, THE BETTER YOU ARE AT IT
An accountant has a bigger, more connected brain in the area of formulae and numbers than I do! A surgeon has a highly developed dexterity part of the brain. A great salesperson has a huge ‘relationship corner’! A jeweler has exceptional eyesight and precision hand movements. In other words, if you have spent a long time learning about and practicing a skill, your brain will have different ‘lumps and bumps’ from someone who specialized in another area!
Remember, I said this was simplistic, but the essence of it is correct.
THE HEART LEVEL - THE KEY IS EMOTIONAL CONNECTION AND AN ‘AH HA’ MOMENT!
Change is all about how people feel about themselves and what they believe they can do, and what is in it for them to change. I believe we can change in a heartbeat given the right conditions and context. Think back in your life to a time when you made an immediate change. Often the decision to make that change comes in a heartbeat. Because you had an ‘aha’ moment which I believe is a moment of revelation in your heart. If we try to change just from our brains, it takes 60-90 days for a change to stick and we have to repeat it a lot!
Making judgments about people is part of the human condition, sadly. How many times have you privately judged someone only to find out something about them that made you feel instant shame that you thought what you thought? And you changed instantly, your perception, feelings and actions. We never know the truth about anyone else unless we have walked in his or her shoes. People will begin a change process when they FEEL, in their heart - they want to change. They hate it when other people impose change on them, force them to change, or tell them how to change! For them to own the change and make it joyful, they have to emotionally connect with some aspect of the process and have an ‘aha’ moment in which they realize the value of the change for them personally. The ‘what’s in it for me if I change’ component.
LEARNING
If we want someone to do something different, we have to give them enough information, knowledge and training to feel supported and confident that they can do what is being asked of them. Learning makes a huge difference. It is also the way to keep our brains young and vital; and not just simple stuff, we have to learn things that are completely different or something we have never done before.
Even before I learned about this, I had always had a dream to play the harp. I loved harp music but knew nothing about music. I only learned the recorder at school and I hated that which turned me off music forever!, until my Mum died. From the money she left me, I bought a harp and was blessed to find an extraordinary teacher in Vermont. She is a saint. I want you to picture this, a 53 year old woman who has never played a musical instrument before who keeps asking ‘what are the little dots on the lines’ - who didn’t know what a flat or a melody was! It’s amazing how tired I am at the end of just sitting in one spot trying to coordinate 3,000 things that she does effortlessly and brilliantly! She sounds fabulous. I sound different!
LETTING GO OF JUDGMENT
But that led me to the second lesson, that judging ourselves often blocks our learning and capacity to change! We need to become aware of our perceptions and beliefs about ourselves, as they shape our reality. Experiences and truth don’t shape our reality, our preconceptions, expectations and judgments determine our perceptions, which determine out reality!
What we expect to happen, and what really happen are often very different things. If we just delete some information in a computer, a ‘black hole’ is left! We need to replace that deleted or changed program with something that is upgraded or improved. Similarly, I believe it will help us to replace judgment with reverence. If we see ourselves and others through the eyes of reverence, our world changes. Reverence means we see the spark of divinity in every person we meet, no matter who they are.
NEVER GIVE UP- IT’S A CHOICE
It’s so easy and natural for most of us to give up when the going is tough. And it’s tough learning news things and changing how we do things and what we think because the work we actually have to do is energy expensive. It takes effort, commitment, perseverance, patience and discipline. And so we perceive it as hard, especially if we don’t see the value in it for us. We give up, often just before the change is cemented or we reap the benefits of our efforts. Instead of giving up, how wonderful it would be if we could face change with cheerful enthusiasm! Having faith that things will work out, doing our best, being optimistic and staying cheerfully engaged throughout the whole process makes change a joyful process! So much of change is a choice - to be different.
CELEBRATE
Leaders need to choose to present change in a way that touches people’s hearts AND minds. To give them the skills, knowledge, confidence, and courage to be successful with the new changes; to encourage them, and most importantly, to celebrate small changes along the way. Our brains need to see /feel/hear the changes quickly, so our hearts are encouraged, and we stay motivated to participate and be engaged. In short, change your perceptions first and your world and others around you will change. Touch people’s hearts and you change their perceptions.
The way you reframe change from something uncomfortable into a process in which people feel valued, cared for, and that they are growing and developing, is the difference between a joyful or a painful process.
Zooties,
Amanda
“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing themselves”
--Leo Tolstoy
Want to find out more, watch this video on How to Be the Boss of Your Brain.
http://youtu.be/IpU9Nv0ulWg
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