My latest favorite book is "Positivity" by a leader in positive psychology, Barbara Frederickson. The most exciting finding is that there is a critical ratio in life - for your joy and success. They actually talk about flourishing in positive psychology - which basically means being a happy, successful, fulfilled, purpose driven person who enjoys growth and development!
The secret is to have 3 positive experiences for every one other than positive EVERY DAY. So that's 6:2, 9:3 etc.
That is your mission today should you choose to accept it! To look for at 3 positive experiences to every one negative all day.
People who are clinically depressed have a ratio of 1:1 and the vast bulk of us who walk around day to day are at 2:1.
Apparently, if you purposefully increase your ratio - your feelings of joy increase automatically. How much simpler could it be?
One of the best ways to do this is to buy a journal, or write in a simple exercise book each night (or morning) - all the positive experiences you can recall from the day. Or type them into your iphone or smart phone as they happen and review them at night.
Once you begin to consciously look for positive moments, it really does transform your life!
Look for simple things like a beautiful sunrise, sunset, flower, or smile. Listen to laughter and recall funny moments in your life. See the positive in all your colleagues, instead of focusing on what we normally do!
For personal relationships, the ratio is 5:1. This is clinically proven!
People who give each other 5 positive comments or experiences to every 1 negative have great personal relationships!
WAKE UP AND WIN
Wake up and consciously seek out a ratio of 3 positive experiences to every 1 negative. You will feel much more joy!
CORPORATE JOY
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